How to cheat Success and make it about YOU!

How to cheat Success and make it about YOU!

I am success. Not successful, rather, a success.

Isn’t that a bold statement?  How dare I put myself out there as being a success? After all, who am I to say that I am more of a success than you are? ME. Seriously, just ME. I am me and I alone know the challenges I have overcome. Click To Tweet I can choose to dwell on them or I can learn from those obstacles and make different choices in the here and now.

Success defined

Let’s talk about the word success.

Dictionary.com defines success as “the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors; the accomplishment of one’s goals”.  If I honestly look back on my life and the goals I have achieved, I definitely meet the definition of success.  After all, I graduated from high school.  Trust me that was a success for being the person who rarely attended and dropped every class possible in order to have more time to “hang out”. Shoot, I even went on to attend college and graduate from grad school.

I think where we get caught up on whether we are successful or not may depend upon how competitive we are.  Stay with me here as I explain.  For example, if you neighbor purchases a brand new car and you are green with envy and berate yourself for not being able to afford that car, you may feel as though your neighbor is more of a success than you.

How do you know that said neighbor isn’t looking at your lawn and steaming with rage because his lawn looks so neglected next to yours?  Perhaps he wonders how you are such a success with your landscaping.  You have heard the expression “the grass is greener on the other side” and this is a perfect example of where that came from.  You may be thinking your neighbor has money to waste while he is wishing he had more time to work on his lawn.

Perspective

Here is another cliché…”life isn’t always as you see it”.  We all view our world through our experiences and our own perception of reality.  Here is also where we need to be careful because our perceived reality may be far from the actual experiences of others.  A little friendly competition is good for the soul; however downright jealousy and lusting for something someone else has is self-deceiving as well as self-defeating.

It’s easy to sit back and wallow in self-pity because we are not where we want to be in our life.  Here is some free advice.  STOP BEING A VICTIM!  You are the result of your experiences; however, it is up to you to change your life.

Self-Growth

I am a huge fan of Jen Sincero and I love her forthright honesty in her books (I may also have a little girl crush on her, so bear with me as I proclaim her greatness).  She is no nonsense and has lived through her own decades of doubt and self-destruction.  However, in her book, You are a Badass at Making Money; she spends a great deal of time talking about how we sabotage ourselves when we compare our lives to the lives of others.  Ultimately, her message is simple.  To achieve success, you have to believe that you are success.  I won’t share more of her message, however, I can assure you, it is worth the read!

Self-growth, ongoing education and challenging yourself are all instrumental in moving forward.  Our brains fight hard to hold onto our old thoughts and behaviors and I have referred to these as “old tapes“.  It is only by challenging those thoughts and behaviors that we will ever leave our comfort zones.  One way of doing that is by following people you admire.  No, I don’t mean to literally follow them; I mean follow them on social media, read their books, and watch their podcasts.

Another way to practice self-growth is to practice affirmations.  Find something positive that you absolutely love and paste it everywhere!  Use is as your screensaver and phone screen!  Put it on your bathroom mirror in lipstick and use sticky notes to put those affirmations all over your house and car!  Keep repeating that affirmation and “fake it till you make it.”

Let Go

Part of being a success is letting go of anything that holds you back.  For many of us, this is difficult as we feel guilty for closing doors on relationships.  Imagine this.  You are not closing a door, you are no longer allowing a person to control you or have influence over you. That is different than denying the person your company.

As you move forward, others may become uncomfortable.  As you step out of your comfort zone, you will have to find others who share your same vision.  You are not leaving others behind as much as you are creating a circle of influence to reach your next level.  Don’t be selfish and do not be afraid to reach out.  The truth is, you most likely have something to offer those around you, even if you don’t believe it yet.

Unfortunately, we are typically the last person to see our gifts and believe in ourselves.  When someone compliments you, accept it and file it away in your brain for those moments you are second guessing every decision you make.  In conclusion, let go of the negativity and embrace your dreams.  At the end of the day, it is up to you to make those dreams a reality.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

STOP the MADNESS!

STOP the MADNESS!

 

Stop and Madness!

Seriously, take a look through the internet and you will find pictures of every shape and size of people trying to tell you to buy their product in order to lose weight. I admit it, as an It Works Rep, I am continuously making suggestions to my friends about a product that will help them look or feel better.

Did you catch that? Look or Feel better.

Intellectually, I know that beauty comes from within. First and foremost, you have to give your body proper nourishment. As a result of proper nourishment, you can expect beautiful skin, healthy hair and strong nails. Proper nourishment can also help you maintain a healthy gut that will reduce bloating and keep you regular.

The right nutrients will assist you in keeping a strong immune system, and high energy level.  I believe in plant-based products, so when I have a friend who has a need, of course, I want to provide them with the top of the line supplements that will enhance their wellness. If I didn’t share what I believe to be amazing, what kind of friend would I be?

Who am I do decide who is worthy of these products and who isn’t?

Subjective

Beauty is also subjective. I put out a question the other day on my FB page asking what people thought was sexy. Ironically, the number one response was confidence Click To Tweet. It had little to do with physical attributes at all! So why on earth do we waste so much time worrying about our appearance?

Consider the impact that social media also brings.  We now have a new opportunity to compare ourselves with others. Unfortunately, we rarely know what photo is real and what has been altered. Therefore, unrealistic expectations continue to push us to a new level of frustration and negative thinking. Social media also offers an opportunity to participate in behind the scenes bashing.  We have all been there. Consider when we post a photo that we actually like of our self and someone says something derogatory. From that point on, the majority of us will remove that photo and begin to focus on the aforementioned negative area.

Stop the Madness

Just stop.

I tell myself this daily and honestly, there are days I tell myself that hourly. I am a woman. My body has given me babies. I have endured multiple surgeries and injuries. Yet, because of my physical appearance, I was reluctant to become an It Works Rep or a trainer at my gym. I was worried about how other people would perceive me and my products and services.

Honestly, that pisses me off. I am so irritated that I would allow my own self-perception to limit the impact I may have on others. Yet, I still get frustrated with myself when I am going to meet someone and I can’t find anything that looks “just right”.  I forget that five years ago I was undergoing major surgery that required extensive recovery. Or that 7 years ago I have just given birth.  My body has been through changes that apparently my mind has forgotten.

Embrace YOU

There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to look your best. For instance, I LOVE my skin care line because it makes my skin look and feel fresh and glowing. However, globally, there is a sense of shame in wanting to do things to enhance our beauty. Seriously, what kind of crap is that? Why is it that we are shamed if we don’t look a certain way. When did it become the norm to be judged if we don’t fit into a certain size, and why are mocked for wanting to look and feel amazing?

I call bullshit.

Here is my advice.  Be comfortable in your skin. Enhance what make YOU stand out from the crowd. Let yourself be pampered. You work hard and you deserve some love too. Stop letting comparison steal your joy. When you continue to worry about your appearance, you lose out on the moments happening before your eyes. Stop the madness.

Moderation

Personally, I have vacillated between 115 and 175 my adult life. Could I be a size 5? Probably. However, I am NOT willing to give up the things I enjoy and revert back to skin and bones. As a mom, I don’t want my boys to see an unhealthy person who is always so worried about my appearance that I won’t share that delicious dessert with them.

I want them to see me as a determined woman who works hard at her businesses and who works out because I want to be strong. They have watched me use my wraps and understand them to be a skin care treatment (which they are). They see my passion for helping others and my focus on being healthy and strong.

So, my friends, mock away. I love when I see memes regarding no wraps, pills or gimmicks. I know what it takes to become stronger…it takes exercising and watching what you eat. Additionally, I know that many people need some help overcoming a plateau or to feel less guilty after a cheat meal. Honestly, I don’t care what you have to do to focus on your own wellness, just do something and believe you are worth it.

Because you are!

 

Is it Fulfillment or a Title?

Is it Fulfillment or a Title?

While at the gym recently, a member asked me if I am fulfilled.

I am a mother, a wife, a puppy mom, a small business owner, a volunteer, an advocate, a writer, the Member Services Director for a local gym and a trainer. Am I fulfilled? Click To Tweet

I have an advanced degree, I continually push myself out of my comfort zone and I routinely accept new challenges…but am I fulfilled?

What is fulfilled?

One thing I am is tired.  Absolutely fucking exhausted.  I tend to overextend myself and forget to stay in the moment.  I feel as though I can do many things, however, I am not sure I do any of them well.  Is that fulfillment?

For me, fulfillment is a sense of accomplishment.  When I received my BSW, I was accomplished.  I barely graduated from high school with a diploma, so receiving a college degree was pretty cool. However, I wanted more.  For me, there is a sense of never reaching a goal because I keep changing where the golden ring is placed.  I keep setting the bar higher and higher.

Is that a bad thing?  I don’t believe so.  I am not one to be content.  I have an internal drive within me that pushes me to do more and be more.  However, I am not afraid to stop and do nothing and sometimes I shut down and do just that.  I restore, I connect with God, I connect with my family and I just let myself be.

But the next day I am up and moving toward another unseen goal.

Fulfillment in a title

For me, fulfillment is an illusion.  It is something people strive for when they continue to push themselves into new and scary adventures.  It is something external that they strive for.  Perhaps it is confused with recognition or accolades.

For me, fulfillment is internal.  What’s fulfilling for me is when my children recognize how hard their mom works.  My boys often ask how many businesses I own or where I am working as I drive them to school.  More importantly, my boys participate in my businesses and I hope I am teaching them a strong work ethic.

What I find fulfilling is when I hear my son tell me he loves me and he puts his little arms around my neck.  I may be many things, but the golden ring goes to the title of being a mother.  After years of being a child abuse specialist, knowing that I am impacting the lives of these living and breathing littles is indeed fulfilling.

Of all the titles, degrees and businesses I add to my name, being called mommy, mom, and mama are at the top of the list.  And I will continue to strive to be what God has trusted me to be.  And I will pray often for His guidance in helping me be who the boys need.  Everything I work for is done around my boys.  I am the first person they see when they awaken and I am the last person they see before they close their eyes at night.

For me, that is fulfillment.  So in answer to my client’s question. Am I fulfilled? Yes, I can confidently say that I am.

They lied – A MLM mom Confession

They lied – A MLM mom Confession

I am THAT mom.  Four years ago I signed up to be an It Works Rep and I have a confession, several, actually.  I absolutely love what I do!  That being said, this business isn’t for the faint of heart.  Intrigued?  Read on.

Confession, They lied

If someone tells you this business is easy, they are flat out lying to you Click To Tweet Unless you love hearing the word NO twenty times a day.  If you are afraid of what others think of you, this business probably isn’t for you.  And if you can’t handle people not returning your messages, texts or calls. you may need to look at working somewhere else.

 

Let me tell you It is not easy money either.  The money does not just fall into your lap.  You will not get rich within one month.  Of course, there are always the exceptions, those who rise to the top quickly, and their stories are phenomenal!  But they are not the norm.  It takes practice, it takes belief, and it takes determination.  The majority of people quit before they even give it a chance.

Confession, It’s Worth It

Is it worth it?  YES!  I will emphatically tell you yes, it is.  WHEN you choose to invest in yourself ( because let’s be honest, when you purchase a business, you are investing in you) the benefits far outweigh the negatives.  In most instances, when you purchase your business, you also purchase training and support.  IF you actually do your training (the majority do not) and IF you connect with your company and your team (the majority do not), your will be on your way to an amazing journey.

You will learn to integrate your business into your life.  You will have opportunities to stretch yourself in ways you never before considered.  In most cases, you will have the chance to connect with people who share your ideal goals and you can learn from watching them in action.

How do you choose?

This may be the most difficult part of your journey.  How do you choose a business that is right for you?  In my experience, the following are key to success:

  • love the products – you must love your products in order to passionately share your results with others.  For me, it is similar to recommending a favorite food or service.  When I find something I love, I feel the need to share it with the world!  After all, everyone should have the opportunity to be as happy as I am!
  • research the company – While many people love to join a company that is starting up, I advise looking for an established one. You can find positive and negative reviews for anything and you need to look past those.  For me, a key point was that my company was debt free and had been for years.  They continue to try to do the same for their distributors.  I also loved that this company is Christian based and I had the opportunity to see this for myself.
  • unique product – Having a product that can only be purchased through you will help you to stand out.  It is far more difficult to sell something that can be purchased at the local department store.  Represent something that is unique.
  • pray about it – it’s scary to make the launch into being a business owner and it isn’t to be taken lightly.  Before I signed on, I researched, talked with my other half and prayed for guidance.  Truth be told, I still do today because my business is about so much more than just me.
  • consider the financial investment – some companies offer a minimal start up fee.  While that may be appealing, be sure you are on board with the products being sold, or you will be throwing your money away.  Look at the compensation plan (it may not make sense when you first look at it, but over time, it will).  You want to be able to make your initial investment back.
  • understand residual income – this is one of the key draws of direct sales.  After all, don’t we all love the opportunity to earn money over and over after one sale?

Confession – It is a Process

You can and should do all of your training, however, the best way for you to be successful is to be consistent.  Trust your upline, your sponsor, your team to guide you.  You will say stupid things that you wish you could take back and that’s ok, it humanizes you.
Self-growth will take you farther than success in your business…it will make your more confident in every aspect of your life.
A brick and mortar store typically takes 5-7 years to see profits.  You can see profits from your Multi level marketing business so much faster by making the decision to work.
So take the chance.  You will never know what you are capable of if you stay in the shadows and watch everyone else.  After all, you are worth it so take charge of your own destiny!

 

 

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Excuses, Which One is Yours?

Excuses, Which One is Yours?

Excuses are an opportunity to fail

Excuses. They are ways we rationalize to ourselves that we can not and will not do something. Click To Tweet The majority of us probably know at least five people who are in direct sales, and many of them have probably asked you to join with them.  In my business, I have heard more excuses than you can imagine, however, the following are the top 5 reasons people don’t join direct sales.  Ready?

 Top 5 Excuses

  1.  I am not a salesperson – um, I said the same thing and quite frankly, I don’t consider myself one either.  That being said, I am a good “sharesperson”.  What’s the difference?  Let me give you an example.  When I go to the salon and get an amazing haircut, I share it with the world.  Why?  Become I want my friends to experience the same thing I just did, therefore I want them to feel as wonderful as I do and I believe that strongly in my stylist.
  2. No time – duh.  NO one takes on a new opportunity because they have time.  People take on new opportunities because they believe in the products and/or the business itself.  And who is today’s world has any extra time?  I don’t.  So, do you want to know a secret?  The busiest people are the MOST successful in direct sales businesses because they have to be.
  3. I don’t know enough people.  I can tell you that your circle will expand tremendously once you start talking. Furthermore, I have met customers at baseball games, grocery stores, events, and via social media.   And by the way?  I don’t like parties.  Yea, I don’t have many parties.  I held launch parties and I have done some dual parties, otherwise, the majority of my business comes from one on ones.  I am so much better at working with someone in a casual setting where we can just chat.
  4. There are too many reps already…this one makes me laugh for two reasons…the first is that it should tell you how much people love our products and the second is…so what?  We all know different people!
  5. No money to start a business. Ok, let’s do some real talk here.  I know how much I spend on coffee alone…take a look at your spending habits and figure out you can miss a few weeks.  If this is important to you, you will make it happen. Another thought…if you truly don’t have the money, then you NEED this opportunity more than most.

Which one was yours?

Did any of those sound familiar?  Let me ask you this, why do you think someone asked you to join their team?  Could it be they see something in you they want to nurture?  Do you think maybe they would love to work directly with you?  Don’t be so quick to disregard them, direct sales business are on the increase.  People are watching and paying attention whilst alternative income streams are becoming the norm.

Next time someone asks you to join them, take a moment to listen.  If you are intrigued, simply ask for more information.  Excuses often stem from fear, so before you make them, look within yourself to assess what you are afraid of.  After all, you may be pleasantly surprised by what happens when you think outside the box.

 

Are you ready to stop making excuses?

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Great Vibrations

Great Vibrations

Vibrating plates at Great Vibrations

In a world of instant gratification, it seems that everyone wants something yesterday.  Therefore, once a goal has been set if results aren’t immediate, that goal is no longer imperative.  Wellness is no exception.  As people age and become increasingly concerned with their overall health, many are looking for a quick fix.

What Makes A Gym

If you quickly do an internet search for Wellness you will find there are a variety of options that promise quick fixes.  Many of those introduce the opportunity to lose weight quickly.  Others offer the assurance that by using their product, you will feel better and look better instantly.  Subsequently, you will also find a variety of gyms in your immediate area, many of them providing you with a slew of different options for increasing your overall wellness.

What is more important in a gym, knowledge of staff or the cost of participation? Do the majority of people choose a gym based on previous experiences or in regard to what is offered?  It appears everyone is increasingly busy and as a result, rarely schedule in time for a full workout.  So, would we be more apt to utilize a 30-minute workout?  Furthermore, is it possible for a 30-minute workout to provide optimum results?

Vibrating Plates at Great Vibrations

It is with a vibrating plate.  This revolutionary technique is already being utilized by all of the NFL teams and Elite trainers from all over the world.  Why?  Vibrating plates utilize G-Force and the natural gravitation of your body. Vibrating anywhere from 30-45 times per second, vibrating plates force your muscles to work at 90% efficiency.  As a result, you fatigue faster while increasing lean muscle. Consequently, continued and regular use of a vibrating plate may also increase flexibility, increase bone density, increase metabolism, and provide a strong core.

Omaha is fortunate to have three unique gyms utilizing vibrating plates.  Aaron McKim is the CEO/Owner of Great Vibrations and credits the popularity of his gyms to today’s specific needs.  “Most people have no time, maintain little knowledge of HOW to train, have injuries, and have not had professional assistance with their wellness”.  After defining those key issues, he created a gym where he offers affordable options with direct professional assistance.  

Why McKim?

McKim has Master’s Degrees in both exercise physiology and nutrition in addition to two decades of experience managing gyms.  He utilizes those degrees to provide client centered workouts for everyone under his supervision.  Many times when people experience an injury from training, they heal and return to exactly what they were doing when the injury occurred.  Unfortunately, according to McKim, all people are not meant to participate in all exercises.  Consequently, getting to know a client’s health history, including nutrition and ongoing injuries, assists McKim in designing an intense workout with appropriate modifications.

Relationships are Key at Great Vibrations

McKim also works directly with other wellness providers in the area and offers their services within the gyms.  By knowing his clients on a more personal level, he is able to provide optimum guidance on both physical wellness and on the nutritional level.  Hence, increasing his clients chance of successfully meeting their goals.

Karen began attending Great Vibrations 4 years ago after she saw a Groupon advertising the gym.  After a significant back surgery left her feeling weak and out of shape, she began attending regular sessions.  She gained strength as she continued to increase her intensity of her workout sessions. She credits her relationship with her trainer and having individually based routines with keeping her coming back.

It is estimated that people who go to a gym and try to work out without assistance AND get desired results to be at 1/10th of 1 percent. Therefore, the rest of the population often becomes frustrated if they do not see immediate changes and stop going to the gym.
Great Vibrations offers a fitness program that works for anybody.  How is that possible? It takes honesty and accountability from both trainer and client.  The majority of people find success in a program when they are held accountable.  As a result, with classes of 5 or less, it is easy to identify when a member is absent and follow up with them. Additionally, clients often receive motivation from one another to perform optimally.

Try it Out

Intrigued?  Go to their website: www.greatvibrationsfitness.com to learn more.  Better yet, come on in and try it on us.  We love skeptics and we promise you will leave feeling encouraged to #beabetteryou.

Sign up now for your first session!

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